The Woman Across the Room

Confidence. Most people would love to have more.

The lucky ones have it in spades. Right? It seems to be in the composition of their DNA. They shine. They have presence. We gravitate towards them. We want to emulate them. We wish we were more like them.

I was once in a workshop in which we were discussing confidence, particularly in the career sense – you know, interviews, networking, presenting your best self. Most people thought that others in that very room were far more confident than they were, and said they wanted to be more like them.

The very next day I was watching a TV show on which one of the guests was Diane von Furstenberg, the famous designer and fashion icon. What an amazing woman!

In talking about herself, her vision and what she has aspired to achieve through her work, Diane said something that reinforced for me something that has become a recurring theme and reminder as I journey through my ongoing life transformation.

That is, there are two sides to the confidence equation: what you think about yourself, and what others see.

Here’s how Diane put it (best):

You always look at the woman across the room. And you think, “The woman across the room is so confident, and so put together, and so on.” But that woman is looking at you. And for her, you are the woman across the room. Everybody’s the same. It’s just a big waste of time to be insecure.

Bottom Line: You have everything you need to embrace confidence and wear it everywhere you go. Someone is looking at you, wishing they were more like you. You ARE that woman across the room. Own it, girl.

Treasa Labaj is a Consultant and Results Coach. She works with women who need a custom blueprint to design and build what they want in life and business via the path of least resistance. If you know there is more to life but may not know what you want, how to get it, or how easy it can be to overcome your fear of making a change – whether it’s a tweak or a leap – give Treasa a shout at